A story of love

Be a resourceful and creative Romantic

2008-10-30T09:22:00.000-07:00

Why is it that so many men and women assume that they don't possess time or take the lead to be romantic? Perhaps most men and women don't accept that they are resourceful enough to be romantic. Everybody is resourceful! The focus of being resourceful is having the capacity or potential to create. The word create offers a immensely broader focus than most men and women allow when it comes to the procedure of being capable to come up with something new or merely adequately thought out.

Gifts that are preconceived to be traditional such as sweets and flowers are fine, but occasionally you require something that goes one move extra. You don't always have to go for roses because they can become tiring after a while! Give him or her something entirely different such as a daisy or new blossom where petals can be counted. Ask him or her to have fun with the adolescence pastime of 'they love me, they love me not' and observe them pick the petals as they go. Even so, don't allow for the likelihood of him or her getting at the 'they love me not'. Total the petals earlier before you give the flower to your mate and make it so that there is an odd number of petals for the perfect result!

Arts and crafts in the past were a fun change from the dullness of the school day, but accept it or not, it will come in handy when it comes to imaginative romantic gestures. Instead of saying that you will love him or her eternally, display it to them. Secure a bit of paper, ribbon or alternate material you select and scribble "I love you" on both sides from end to end. Intertwine the paper 180 degrees and unite both ends of the paper till you have made what looks like the figure eight. Tape or paste the ends together. You can show your love with a symbol that shows them your love for them is an unlimited love.

Imagination comes in numerous diverse forms! Being imaginative can mean creating a great mood. If you desire to plan the eventual romantic night but money is low , turn down the heater , so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and to please each other.

Perhaps romance is on your mind, but he or she is going out of town. Did you understand that men and women on airplanes are usually incurable romantics? Any flight attendant would be more than pleased to make certain that your mate receives a unique gift after the flight has left the runway. Merely talk to a crew member after he or she boards the plane and they are normally more than pleased to indulge a incurable romantic such as you! (You might want to make certain that the present is unwrapped or keep it simple, like a single rose because of the heightened security.)

Imagination doesn't need to come in the shape of presents every time. Gestures like dancing with your partner when a particular tune comes on the radio is completely imaginative and very romantic! Whenever the inclination strikes you, grant your imaginative juices to whirl! Article courtesy of Stan Morse.

The basureros

2007-12-12T18:57:00.000-08:00

I would like to share this very inspiring and very moving story I just received a moment ago. The message is too inspiring that I can’t help myself sharing it. Unfortunately, I don't have the writer's name -- this has been circulating. Here it goes:

Ever since it was diagnosed that I am having a possible heart enlargement in the last APE, I have exerted more effort to do physical exercises. I do jogging during week days and do long - ride mountain biking every Sunday. But this Sunday is a special Sunday to me. While I was on my way to the mountains of Busay (cebu) hoping to strengthened my heart by this exercise, instead, I personally
encountered a heart-breaking scene that changed me.

I already passed the Marco Polo Plaza (formerly Cebu Plaza Hotel) when I decided to stop to buy bananas at a small carenderia located along the road. I haven’t taken any solid food that morning so I need fruits to have the needed energy to get to my destination - the mountain top.

I am almost done eating with the second banana when I noticed two children across the street busily
searching the garbage area. “Basureros” I said to myself and quickly turn my attention away from
them to sip a small amount of water. I cared less for these kind of children actually; to make it
straight, I do not like them, and I do not trust them even more.

You see, several times I have been a victim to these kind of children who are pretending to be basureros looking for empty bottles and cans when in act the ‘plangganas’ , ‘kalderos’, and ‘hinayhays’ are their favorites.

I remember one afternoon while I was watching a Mike Tyson fight when I noticed that the TV screen suddenly became blurred. I checked outside and saw two young basureros running away with my newly installed antenna.

Hatred may be a little bit stronger word to describe my feeling towards these basureros, but I do not like them honestly not till I met these three children.

I was about to embark on my bike again when I heard one of the two children, a girl of about 7 or 8 of age saying aloud to the other, a 12-yr old boy, “kuya si dodong kunin mo kasi tumitingin sa mga kumain, nakakahiya”, only then that I noticed a small boy standing near to me biting slightly his finger. He’s a few inches shorter if compared to my 5 years old son (but I knew later that he’s also 5 yrs. Old).

Though he did not asked for food to anyone in the carenderia, the way he looked at the customers who were eating , enough to convinced me that he intensely craving for it. The older boy then quickly crossed the street and gently pulled out the little one who politely obeyed. As I watched the two crossing back the street to the garbage area, I heard the tindera saying “kawawa naman yung mga batang yun mababait pa naman “. I learned further from the carenderia owner that the children are from a good family , both parents were working before, and that their father got a stroke 3 years ago and became partially paralized and their mother died of heart attack while their father was still confined at the hospital.

The parents were still in their early forties when the catastrophe happened, and the children became basureros since then to meet their daily needs and for their father’s medication. Deeply moved by what I heard, I went to a nearby bakery and bought 20 pesos worth of bread and gave it to the children who initially refused including the little boy. “Sige lang po, salamat na lang, bibili na lang po kami mamaya kung makabenta na kami,” the young girl said to me. I explained that they need to go home
because it started to rain. “Nasanay na po kami “, the girl answered again. Again, I explained that the rain can make them sick and if they’ll become sick there’s no one to take care of their father. Upon mentioning their father, they nodded and accept the bread but I noticed that the older boy did not eat.
When I asked him if he does not like the kind of bread I bought for them he smiled but as he’s about to explain, the little girl, who is the more talker of them interrupted, “Linggo po kasi ngayon,pag sabado at linggo hapon lang po sya kumakain, kami lang po ang kumakain ng agahan pero di na po kami kakain pagdating ng hapon si kuya lang po. Pero pag lunes hanggang biyernes, kasi may pasok, si kuya lang po nag-aagahan, kami hapunan lang pero kung marami kaming benta, kami pong lahat(kumakain) she continued. “bakit kung kumain kayong lahat, hati-hatiin nyo na lang kahit kunti lang ang pagkain? I countered. The young girl reasoned out that their father wanted that her older brother to come to school with full stomachs so he can easily catch up the teacher’s lessons. ” Pag nagkatrabaho si kuya, hihinto kami sa pamamasura, first honor kasi sya”, the little boy added proudly.

Maybe I was caught by surprise or I am just overly emotional that my tears started to fall. I then quickly turned my back from them to hide my tears and pretended to pick up my bike from the carenderia where I left it. I don’t know how many seconds or minutes I spent just to compose myself; pretending again this time that I was mending by bike.

Finally I get on to my bike and approached the three children to bid goodbye to them who in turn cast their grateful smiles at me. I then took a good look at all of them specially to the small boy and pat his head with a pinch in my heart. Though I believe that their positive look at life can easily change their present situation, there is one thing that they can never change; that is , their being motherless. That little boy can no longer taste the sweet embrace, care, and most of all , the love of his mother forever. Nobody can refill the empty gap created by that sudden and untimely death of their mother. Every
big events that will happen to their lives will only remind them and make them wish of their mother’s presence.

I reached to my pocket and handed to them my last 100 peso bill which I reserved for our department’s bowling tournament. This time they refused strongly but I jokingly said to the girl, “suntukin kita pag hindi mo tinanggap yan”. She smiled as she extended her hand to take the money. “Salamat po, makakabili na kami ng gamot ni papa”, she uttered. I then turned to the small boy and
though he’s a few feet away from me, I still noticed that while his right hand was holding the half - filled sack , his left hand was holding a toy ? a worn out toy car. I waved my hands and said bye bye to him as I drove towards the mountains again. Did he just found the toy in the garbage area or the toy was originally his - when the misfortune did not took place yet? - I did not bother to ask. But one thing is crystal clear to me, that inspite of the boy’s abnormal life, he did not given up his childhood completely. I can sense it that way he hold and stare at his toy.

My meeting with that young basureros made me poorer by 100 pesos. But they changed me and made me more richer as to lessons of life are concerned. In them, I learned that life can changed suddenly and may caught me flat footed. In them, I’ve learned that even the darkest side of life, cannot change
the beauty of one’s heart. Those three children, who sometimes cannot eat three times a day, still able to hold on to what they believe was right. And what a contrast to most of us who are quick to point out to our misfortunes when caught with our mistakes. In them, I’ve learned to hope for things when things seem to go the other way.

Lastly, I know that God cares for them far more than I do. That though He allowed them to experience such a terrible life which our finite minds cannot comprehend, His unquestionable love will surely follow them through.

And in God’s own time they will win

Your Anniversary

2007-10-04T20:31:00.000-07:00

This year, make your anniversary memorable! Use a little imagination and take your love one on an adventure they will never forget. Make your day or evening unique to you. Did your love story starts on the ocean? Get sailing lessons! Was your story of love focus on destination? Maybe you are unable to fly to that tropical location today, but you could go out to a themed dinner or make dinner with a tropical theme.

Start your evening with a tropical theme as you present your spouse with a fresh squeezed smoothie of tropical fruit with umbrellas! Take your sweetheart on a paddle boat ride while wearing flowered leis and Hawaiian shirts. A serenade with a ukulele may be a little hard for you to pull off, but one thing that won't be hard to do is convince your love to challenge you to a sexy game of Sex Lies and Rumors or a round of dirty dice! A CD of ocean waves crashing in the background while you wear nothing but a body stocking and your flowered lei will bring back intimate memories. Having a candle light dinner with fresh seafood and pina coladas will stir up your senses and awaken the steamy memories of your first love making! Maybe you had a snowy cabin wedding in the mountains in winter. If that is the case, book a sleigh ride for two with some marshmallow hot chocolate. Wear only a fur coat over a fun body stockingand a furry stocking cap! Flip through your wedding day photo albums in front of a roaring fire. Watch the DVD gift you bought for them, The Secrets Of Sensual Lovemaking while snuggled up together on a hotel sofa. You will both have fun learning a few more tricks and reliving your snowy wedding day in a cabin or hotel in the snowy mountains.

Making your anniversary special doesn't have to be a huge weekend affair. Sometimes the right romantic card with a poem or gift will suffice as a reminder to the special years you have spent together. Online is a great way to purchase the right gifts for what every woman or what man wants. sexy game to lingerie, candles and other toys are only clicks away. The Secrets Of Sensual Lovemaking could be a fun gift to send to their office to let them know you are thinking of them always.

A very special anniversary gift is hiring an erotic photographer to take some burlesque photos of you and your spouse, or just you as a gift. They will be pleasantly surprised that you went out of your way to create a very personalized sexy gift that can't compare to anything else quite like it. Have your personalized erotic photos wrapped up in satin bedding and presented in a keepsake leather box- they will be tempted to open up the album over and over again.

There are hundreds of ways to make your anniversary special. Don't settle on the same piece of jewelry or dinner out to Chinese food- spice it up and have a memorable time!

article courtesy of Melissa Peterman

What is Love.

2007-09-09T22:10:00.000-07:00

Recently, I have been blessed with the presence of a fascinating man who is kind, compassionate, fun-loving, charismatic, genuine, romantic, strong and wise. He asked me the question, "What does love mean to you?"

It was a sincere question, yet one I could not easily define in that moment. I realize that a story of love is much bigger, broader, and deeper than I could explain in words. Love is who we are and all that we connect with. Love is our true nature. Love is genuine. In absolute simplicity, LOVE IS TRUTH.

I am drawn to share with you a "glimmer" of how love, in its most genuine way, presents itself through aspects of my life. It is my wish for you to receive from this message a reminder that will awaken or deepen your natural state of love for self and others.

Love in Business

Essentially, love in business is a compassionate, kind-hearted, authentic expression of our self. Whether we provide a top-notch service or maintain a genuine belief in an excellent product to enhance lives, love is the sincere expression involved in relating with others.

Love is about sharing the message and allowing an individual the freedom to decide if our message fits or aligns with them. It is about trusting there is indeed room for each of us to prosper. This level of trust takes belief in our self and faith that we reside in an abundant universe. As we align ourselves with work that inspires and even ignites us, we, as energy beings, resonate at a particular energetic level that naturally attracts a like vibration - a continuous flow of sales, new customers, fun-loving business associates, completing tasks with ease, increased profits, and inspirational ideas!!!

In my business, I communicate from the heart and guide others in doing the same. I interface with the Energy, which is love, to support my clients in healing their mind, body, and heart. Each of us is innately whole and well, we need only to remember this and step out of our own way.

The next time you are speaking with a client or business associate, focus every ounce of your attention on that person. Watch how people blossom like flowers, responding to your genuine interest. Ask questions about their life and listen intently to their reply. Most of us do this already, yet we can each improve the degree in which we listen. Our attention and time is the GREATEST GIFT we can give another.

Love in Personal Relationship

Love in relationship takes on many expressions. A vital aspect is giving our partners and the people we care about freedom to express what they truly think and feel. In respecting another's thoughts and emotions, without judgment, we honour and love them. Love is not limited to intimate relationship because love does not limit. Love does not punish. We may not like what we see, however, LOVE IS TRUTH, and only truth will secure a strong foundation for love to express.

My intention is to experience a loving relationship that flourishes and deepens for a life-time. That is my truth. To embrace this possibility, I must be true to the expression of LOVE and believe in my partner to do the same. Being honest, compassionate, an incredible listener, and extending forgiveness, each moment of every day, as best I can, permits growth, movement and positive change in both people.

Love is honesty. Love is sharing what is important even when you think your words will impact or hurt another. Not for the purpose of inflicting pain, yet rather for instilling a deeper connection and trust. By enabling authentic communication, we drop our armor; lower our bridges, allowing positive transformation through a heart-felt exchange.

In authentic love, there is no room for fear. FEAR does not exist. Fear exists rather in the mind, as a result of a future imposed question like 'what if'? We've each experienced a feeling of fear in our bodies, and that emotion is absolutely real, yet fear is derived from our mind's concern about the future. Being in a state-of-fear, cancels out love, while feeling the fear and moving forward transforms fear and replaces it with LOVE - our natural state-of-being.

What we do to others, is what we do to ourselves. Loving another is an extension of loving ourselves. The reverse is also true.

Tips for Expanded Levels of Love

1. Strengthen your communication muscle; express your thoughts and feelings

2. Respect another's thoughts and emotions; listen intently

3. When fear arises, take a deep breath or two, decide to embrace the emotion and move through it

4. Recognize the wholeness and natural beauty in everyone; who they truly are beyond their actions

5. Forgive others and inevitably we forgive ourselves

6. See our loved ones as unique beings; yet interconnected with us always

7. Take a deeper interest in knowing more about someone already present in your life

8. Write a letter, email or card telling someone why you care about them

May you expand your depth of loving self and loving another, in business and in relationship.

A beautiful article by Collen Wynia

Demand of Love (my favorite article by bokjae)

2007-09-09T21:13:00.000-07:00

Many years ago there was a movie titled "Love Story" starring Ali Mcgraw and I forgot the male actor, some handsome fellow. It was the rave of town then perhaps in the early 70's The famous words that came out of the movie was "Love is Never having to say sorry". Lately I came across a blog on relationships, saying "When you are making love and if he closes his eyes, then he could be thinking of somebody else" Wow! If thats how my spouse think then I dare not even bat an eye-lid! Another blog said that "don't get angry or upset when he leaves you but get even". Taking revenge sort of thing.

Here is a story of a man looking for a wife and he goes to the relevant Government Department, saying "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

The moral of the story is There is no perfect Spouse!

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that " A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech, name calling etc. Very often after sometime in a relationship, the couple forget mutual respect and courtesy which leads to a careless word here and there, hurting the feelings of the other person.

A short excerpt to illustrate this point. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A site-worker saw her and shouted, "Hi, Jane! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home Jane's millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." Jane replied, "You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise he will be the millionaire and not you."

Such exchanges although seemingly harmless, actually plants a seed of contention which slowly erode the relationship between the couple. In speech we must remember gentleness, kindness, truth and temperate.

Another very important ingredient for a healthy relationships is 'TRUST'. When trust is broken, very often it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion then anger, which builds up enmity and eventually separation. Heard this story before?

A telephone operator said that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

In closing, I would just like to post some verses from the Bible on Love. Read it and noticed the words used to express Love rather than what Hollywood is telling our kids and us! Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.

Love Never Fails!

"Well Good life starts ONLY when you stop looking for a Better One"